Self Employed Parent Podcast with Joel Bower

Hi and Welcome to the self employed parent podcast. I’m Joel Bower, the Self Employed Parent and 3 times a week, I want to show you the amazing lessons and techniques that not only gave me the ability to balance that delicate line between being a parent and running a business, but how to actually thrive in both. Also, why being an entrepreneur can the best thing you ever do for your family. In this show, I’ll cover business techniques great for parents, such as starting an Amazon business, dropshipping, and affiliate marketing to help parents make money from home. I’ll also talk to parenting experts and entrepreneurs about everything from parenting styles, small business ideas, and business opportunities to help you open up new worlds and get more time with your family. Join me as I show you how, you too, can have the best of both worlds!
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Sep 11, 2015

In Episode 53, I answer great questions from my interview with Dana and Mark Hatjakes from SOSU TV, as well as amazing questions about how to really get the best of both worlds, such as how to shut down the stream of negative comments when it comes from someone you love and see every day.

More on integrating your family into your career.

If you work in an area that isn’t “kid friendly,” find creative ways to involve your kids without having to give them all the information. You can also just focus on the goals and why you’re doing what you’re doing, not necessarily what that thing is.

When family holds an entrepreneur back.

It’s definitely true that there are consequences when you start a business and have a family. Ultimately, changing the mindset on why you’re doing what you're doing and realizing you want more for your family than a 9 - 5 job can offer can help you make the jump.

Changing the course of a negative conversation.

It’s possible you’ve accidentally conditioned your loved ones to be unhappy about your business. Reframe the way you talk about your business to try to highlight the awesome parts and downplay the negatives.

Businesses that make it impossible to have the best of both worlds.

None! It depends on how you define “best of both worlds.” You can find a business that suits your specific needs and gives you everything you want in life and more.

Check out the episodes we answered questions from in this episode!

  • Episode 49: Interview with Dana and Mark Hatjakes from SOSU TV: The integration, not just balance, of home and work life.
  • Episode 51: A close family and a thriving business? 3 must do steps for getting the best of both worlds!

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Sep 4, 2015

In Episode 50, I talk answer questions from episodes 46 and 48 about business education and how to ensure your business really is the best thing for you and for your family. I also answer some general questions from my followers about parenting advice and inspirations.

How to find business education resources.

I’m always looking for new information. The best way to start is to search for how to do things you aren’t familiar with. There are also free educational materials that lead into bigger webinars, and if you can get involved in groups that help each other in business, that can help a lot.

Avoiding the education overwhelm.

Make sure you’re only getting the most current information so you don’t have to dig through a lot of information. Play around with programs to get familiar with them before you really dig into the nitty gritty details.

Businesses with more opportunity.

Try out other kinds of businesses, like drop shipping or amazon businesses, to free up your time and possibly bring your family into what you’re building.

When your business doesn’t cut it.

It’s not an all or nothing situation. Work on making your existing business something that will get you on the right track, or leverage the business you have now to build the business that gets you what you want.

Check out the episodes we answered questions from about in this one!

  • Episode 46: 3 Real reasons that more education is a must for every business person, especially those who want more for their family.
  • Episode 48: 8 must answer questions that will tell you if the growth of your business is going to support your family and your life.

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Aug 28, 2015

In Episode 47, I answer some great questions from episodes 43 and 45 about business leverage, technology, and getting rid of guilt. If you’re wondering how you’re supposed to talk to your kids or how to take advantage of technology when you’re pretty technologically impaired, this is the episode for you.

How does leveraging people, technology, and resources help your family?

When you do it right, you take the stressful tasks off your plate, which means you’re at your best when you do spend time with your family. It’s not just about time - it’s about the quality of the time, too.

How to leverage technology if you are technology impaired.

You don’t HAVE to use technology if it slows you down. There are a lot of other ways you can leverage your resources. Make technology the last thing you leverage - and maybe leverage people to get someone who is good with technology to take it over for you.

How else you can help your family (and you) feel better about the time you spend at work.

There is not a single solution to this problem. Every family is unique. Overall, you need to make sure you’re clear on why you’re doing what you’re doing. Experiment with different ways to talk to your kids about it to see what works for you all as a family, and make sure to tie it all back to their lives and what’s important to them.

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Check out the episodes we answered questions from about in this one!

  • Episode 43: What the hell is Business Leverage and why your family cares.
  • Episode 45: Stopping The Guilt: 4 actions that will alleviate the stress of not being their for you kids, by giving them what they really want.

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Aug 21, 2015

In episode 44, I answer some great questions from my interview with JV Crum III about how to find your calling and the steps you can take to be a more conscious business owner. I also answer questions about how to talk to your teenagers and how to avoid “buying” your kids’ love when you get them gifts and favors.

Finding your calling.

Every entrepreneur wonders if they’re doing the right thing. Often times, our businesses are “stepping stones” for us to move forward to what our real calling is.

Becoming a conscious business owner.

There are so many nonprofits and movements out there, that it really just comes down to what you want to be involved in and what you like. If your business can donate a little bit of time, money, or recognition, nonprofits would love it.

Getting gifts without buying love.

The concept of buying love has to do with intent. If you’re trying to trade it for something, it feels like buying, but if it’s genuine and just because you care and not because you expect something in return, it feels like you care.

Checking in with teenagers.

Teenagers have a lot going on. A lot of the time they have weird peer pressure to not talk to their parents. I let my kids know that I check in because I want to help guide them, not because I want to control them, setting the stage that checking in is not me trying to be invasive.

Getting the best of both worlds.

If you’re in an industry where it feels like you can’t, look for examples of people in your profession who HAVE balanced their life to get the best of both worlds.

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Check out the episodes we answered questions from about in this one!

  • Episode 42: Interview with JV Crum III: Self-made entrepreneur millionaire, best selling author, and certified business coach.
  • Episode 40: 5 Amazing tips I use to keep my family the biggest fans of me and my business.

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Aug 14, 2015

In episode 41, I answer some great questions from our interview with Greg Lintz, as well as some questions about episode 39 about keeping your family happy during your business’s growth stage.

Avoiding an argument when you talk about your business.

It’s common to argue with your spouse about your business. Try to avoid talking about negative things about your company to try to make the conversations easier.

Show your spouse you care.

It can be frustrating for your normally-employed spouse to be in their job. Continuously show them you care to show them you understand how hard it can be.

Bring down the time from your growth stage.

Systemize, leverage, and organize to bring your hours down after your business booms.

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Check out the episodes we answered questions from about in this one!

  • Episode 37: Interview with Greg Lintz: Being married to an entrepreneur - the stressors, the balance, and the big wins.
  • Episode 39: 6 steps to keeping your family strong, even during your business's growth stage.

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Aug 7, 2015

In episode 38, I answer some great questions from our most recent episodes and interviews on what kind of hats parents should and should not wear, how to get the kind of “friends” you want in your life, and explaining a little bit about what a business incubator is and why one may be good for you.

Two kinds of gut check.

There are two kinds of gut check: one where something’s happening now and needs to be addressed immediately, and one where you should give it a little bit of time, wait it out, and get more information before you act.

My definition of “friend.”

I feel like a friend is a particular support group - people who actually supported who you are and see the best in you and you see the best in them. A “friend” in this sense is not necessarily someone you’ve known for a long time or been through difficult situations with.

Starting a business for the non-business-minded.

Build up a team who can really support you, educate yourself whenever you need to, and find a way to fill in the gaps for the information you do not have.

Redefining failure.

Don’t think of it as failing. Many of the things we see as “failure,” you can see as challenge, difficulty, or just a natural part of business.

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Check out the episodes we answered questions from about in this one!

  • Episode 30: 5 Ways being an entrepreneur has made me a better parent.
  • Episode 33: 3 Awesome people you must have in and around your business and your life.
  • Episode 34: Interview with Keri Lehmann of be genuine, find motivation within, and rest.
  • Episode 35: Interview with Norman Smith: Entrepreneur, parent, and mentor to over 250 startup businesses.

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Jul 24, 2015

In Episode 32, I answer a couple of great questions about how to keep your kids from picking up your bad habits, such as snacking and self defeat, and some general questions about sourcing and custom work. I also talk about some cool suggestions our listeners had about fun toys to bring in to enhance the time you spend with your family.

Managing the bad snack habit.

This is a unique problem to every family. Maybe the kids have too much access to unhealthy foods, even if you eat well. Try talking to your kids like they’re adults to help them understand the consequences of bad food without talking down to them.

Defeating self defeat.

The best thing to teach your kids is that you mess up, too. Show them your consequences, what you’re working on, and make them a part of the solution. Help them help you adapt your behavior.

Family toys our listeners love.

People love these!

  • Bubble Machine.
  • Tabletop Ping Pong Set
  • Water Balloon Slingshots
  • Picnic Backpack

More on outsourcing.

Eliminate the fear of jumping into something new. Take off the burden to realize you’re doing the right thing. Find a small project to outsource to get your feet wet.

Getting started with custom goods.

I’m not currently in this business - does anyone in the audience know how to go about selling custom made jewelry or clothing? Let me know!

In this episode, we answered questions from…

Jul 17, 2015

In episode 29, I answer a few great questions from episode 24 about outsourcing work without sacrificing quality and episode 25 about using personality profiling to better your business and all your relationships.

Freelancing preferences and skills

I use different freelancing sites for different projects. Elance, 99 Designs, and oDesk are ones I’ve used recently. Additionally, test out the sites to find freelancers with a lot of quality - and remember, price doesn’t necessarily indicate quality.

Take the DISC test

Check out Tony Robbin’s DISC test here!

Myers Briggs vs DISC

Realistically, Myer’s Briggs and DISC both work in four different types. Myer’s Briggs has more letter breakdowns, but they’re essentially just shades of the same personality types that DISC offers. DISC is also easier to use in every day life.

Other personality tests

Most other tests seem to be based on the DISC system. There are color codes, Myer’s Briggs, DISC, and others that all come back to the same place. Find a system that works for you

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Jul 10, 2015

In episode 26, we bring Chris Shaffer back to answer some of your questions about selling on Amazon. He covers how to handle having limited skills in writing and photography, how to set up a store without a lot of time, product varieties, and categories.

Check out Chris’s interview!

Before you go on, you may want to listen to the interview with Chris in episodes 21 and 22!

When in doubt, outsource.

Having high quality photos and copy on Amazon is important. If you’re in doubt about your skills, outsource. Check out freelancing sites to get these things done.

Focus on selling variants.

While many competitors sell a lot of different variations, focus your time on selling the variants you know that sell. Additionally, you can also try to sell the variant that stands out the most.

Build your products on each other.

Amazon is built to sell as much as possible to as many people as possible. If your products are closely related and in the same category, you have an increased chance of upselling from one product to another.

Learn more about selling on Amazon.

Check out The Amazing Seller podcast. Chris works with Scott and all the information is available for free on his podcast. Additionally, there’s a class for people who want to privately sell on Amazon. If you want to contact Chris, check out the Amazing Seller Facebook Group and tag him @Chris Shaffer.

Jul 3, 2015

In Episode 23, we answer some awesome questions from the last few weeks, particularly about how to teach our kids to be confident without being cocky, how to manage and prioritize your family and business, and how to handle a client you hate that your partners may not want to get rid of.

Make money doing what you love.

Figure out what you want from your business, and work around those parameters to build a business out of your passions. Start off by finding an entry piece that other companies aren’t doing, offer that at a price they can’t turn away from, to build your clientele and trustability.

Compliment your kids on things they’ve done.

Focus on building your kids up about their own personal accomplishments. Show them that what they do, not just who they are, is amazing.

Your personal choices determine your priority sort.

What do you actually want to do in life? Prioritize things to get you closer to the life you want.

Handling bad clients when your partner wants to keep them.

Work it out with your partner where you don’t have to deal with the client as much as your partner does. Or, make a milestone agreement with your partner to drop the client when your business reaches a certain point. Today we answered questions from these episodes:

  1. Episode 20: The things we teach our kids could be destroying their chances of being self employed and also hurting your business success.
  2. Episode 19: The number one way to prioritize your kids and still crush it in business.
  3. Episode 17: The 3 most devastating costs for taking on horrible clients, especially when you are struggling and need the business.
Jun 19, 2015


In episode 18, I answer some great questions viewers had about episodes 14, 15, and 16, concerning how to leave stress from work at the door when you come home, how to tell if that stress is affecting your family, and what to do when you can’t really afford to hire someone to do the work you shouldn’t be doing in the first place.

Jun 5, 2015

In Episode 13, I answer questions from episodes 11 and 12. We cover a bit more about goal setting in particular situations with your children, how being self-employed actually offers more job security than the standard alternative, and my secret to opening up my time while running a business.

May 29, 2015


In episode 10, I answer questions about how to distance yourself from clients who bring you down without causing drama, how you can start up a business even if you are short on cash, and why you shouldn’t confuse being busy with being successful.

May 22, 2015


In episode 8, I answer some important questions from viewers about how to tell when you’re getting stressed, how to manage a bad employee who desperately needs the job, and what you can do to help your family understand and support your need for time to yourself. I also go into managing a schedule and managing 360 reviews with your family.